Many people look at a couple where the girl is more controlling and instantly label the guy “whipped”. I talked to many random people to see what their definition of “being whipped” is. All of the answers were very similar saying that it meant “a person doing really small unnecessary things for another that they could do themselves”. Another guy explained being whipped as “you don’t have 100% say in your actions.” My personal definition would be a person who does things they don’t want to just because the other person wants them to.
It was very interesting as I went from lunch table to lunch table, guys and girls, majority of them being guys answering my question, “Have you ever been called whipped and how did it make you feel?” I got guys saying things like “I don’t like being called whipped, makes me feel less manly” and “I don’t like it, not going to lie, I denied it.”
Nobody likes being called whipped and I think the phrase is overused. There’s a line between being nice and loyal in a relationship and one person just bossing the other around. As one guy I talked to said, “They should call me loyal instead of whipped.”
I agree with this to a certain extent. When guys do nice things for their girlfriend out of the blue and hang out with them when they want to, people shouldn’t harass the guy and claim he’s whipped. I do think that when the girl starts keeping their boyfriend from hanging out with their friends and making them do every little thing for them, that’s not right. A guy shouldn’t have to deal with that or even a girl in that position for that fact.
Not only does a whipped person in a relationship effect the two in the relationship but it also affects people close to them. I talked to a girl where her best friend is in a relationship and never has the time to hang out with her anymore. “Makes me annoyed because she says we’ll hang out all the time but we never do, she’s just with her boyfriend.”
In highschool, this situation seems almost unavoidable. “I don’t think high school should be spent just hanging with your boyfriend,” says the senior girl dealing with a disappeared best friend. I 100% agree this, especially when you have a best friend looking for you. Although this phrased is definitely overused, when it does happen it affects people all around and isn’t particularly healthy for the relationship.